Most days around 3:25 when the boys get home from school we sit and chat about their day. I look forward to this time and hope that the boys always feel like they can share any and everything with me without fear of being judged or loved any less.
One day last week Jordan told me about his day and then he had something else to tell me.
For the last year or so Jordan has had a nice little group of friends – boys and girls. I know most of these kids and lots of their parents and they are all very nice.
Well, Jordan wanted to tell me about one of the boys that just moved here last year (I haven’t met him yet).
Jordan kind of stumbled around and couldn’t find the words for exactly what he wanted to tell me. He finally managed to say that this particular boy liked other boys. I think I surprised him when I said “OK.”
Well, this boy (M) had kept it a secret for a long time but over the previous weekend his parents found out and they did not react well at all. They told him he couldn’t hang out with the group of friends he had been with – I guess they thought that hanging around different people would “change” him. They told him he could only hang out with his “friends” who didn’t support him.
I feel horrible for Jordan’s friend M and the fact that his parents are not able to accept him as he is.
Jordan and Hunter and I had a long discussion about the fact that I want them to know they can always tell me anything and I will still love them with every single part of my heart!!!
This is something that has been on my mind since the conversation I had with Jordan last week. When I was growing up I never felt comfortable telling my mom much and I don’t want my boys to ever experience those feelings.
Do you have an open relationship with your parents and/or kids?