I think that many of us have some things in our past we regret.
I have made plenty of mistakes in the past but I try to look at all of those as lessons learned.
I don’t want to spend my life stuck in the past or regretting the mistakes I made when I was younger or even the mistakes I made last week!!
The other type of regret we often have is over things we didn’t do. I think those are sometimes harder to move past. Some things we can still do but some of the opportunities are completely gone.
I don’t want to look back and wish I had been kinder to those around me so I will try to always be kind.
I don’t want to look back and wish I had taken more chances in my life so I will look for opportunities to grow and seize them when I can.
Which type of regret do you think is hardest to live with – the mistakes or the missed opportunities?
1. Did you know – The fox doesn’t really say any of the things in that catchy song!!! There is a red fox that roams our neighborhood and sometimes at night it gets on our back deck and garage roof. It is LOUD!!!! The first time I heard it I thought it was a baby crying or a cat fight.
It is a very creepy sound in the middle of the night right outside your bedroom!!!
2. Did you know – it is virtually impossible to find reliable people for any type of service (at least here in Topeka). We have struggled with plumbers, electricians, car maintenance – I don’t understand why people can’t just do their jobs and do them WELL!!!
3. Did you know – Holidays often make me sad because we don’t have family to share the day(s) with. Many times we do things with good friends instead which is always great. I dropped the ball (basically was lazy) and we didn’t have any plans for Easter so we just hung out together.
4. Did you know – with all of the running I have done in 2015 I haven’t done as much strength training or other workouts and as a result I have put on some pounds that I don’t really want!!!
I think it’s time for some –
5. Did you know – I had a giveaway last week for my friend Kristi Pelton’s newest book – Slick and the winner is……
WooHoo – congratulations to Kris!!!!
6. Did you know – It’s Fun Friday!!! Happy Friday!!
Happy Birthday today to Hunter (my baby who isn’t a baby at all!!)!!!
my baby
Today Hunter is 14!!! In honor of his big day I decided to share 14 fun facts about him.
1. Hunter was born 6 weeks early. Thankfully I went into labor on a Wednesday and he wasn’t born until early Sunday morning. In that time I had 2 huge steroid shots (one in each hip) to aid in his lung development. Even early he weighed 5’9″ and only had to spend 1 week in the NICU.
so sweet
2. This guy has always been able to make me smile. (Well, there was a brief time when he was 3 that I didn’t smile a lot but…..)
whatever it takes….
3. Hunter is perfectly happy to be his own person!!!
we both had some big hair 13 years ago!!!
4. Everyday when I ask Hunter how his day was, he says – “Good, how was your’s?” In the morning when I ask him how he slept he says. “Good, how did you sleep?”
with Mema
5. Hunter truly cares about those around him. A couple weeks ago when we were talking about his day he said in PE he was teamed up with one of the kids who needs a para. He said they lost that day but he had fun because he could help his partner.
a high 5 from his big brother
6. Hunter sets goals – lots of them! Some are small (like getting Jordan to give him a high 5) and others are life goals (like going to MIT)!
selfie
7. Hunter is like a walking encyclopedia on some topics. I have no idea how he retains all the stuff in his head. There are lots of times I feel like a complete idiot when we have conversations!!!
not afraid to acknowledge his mom
8. He will always wave to me, say hi, come over and even hug me when he sees me – even if his friends are around!
Life is like a cube – you just have to solve it.
9. Hunter is a Rubik cube expert!! He can solve everything from the 2 x 2 up to the 10 x 10 (did you know they even made all those cubes?) and some odd shaped “cubes” as well. I think his record on the standard Rubik Cube is around 19.44 seconds.
cello player
10. In just a few years he has turned into a really great cello player and received some big awards.
Neon Yellow
11. Hunter has a signature color and everyone can see him coming!!! He wears this color shirt and shorts every day!!! (he has lots!!
looks good!
12. Hunter has a list (it is LONG) of all the things he wants to learn – about 20 languages, every math skill possible, chess (as an expert)……
after his first half marathon!
13. Hunter ran 13 miles (actually 13.1) to celebrate being 13 – I think he plans to run 14 later this year. What a great idea!! Wonder where he came up with something like that?!
my family
14. Hunter completes our family!! It was great many years ago when it was just Chris and I. Then Jordan made us a family of 3 and life was amazing. But, being a family of 4 is perfect for us!
At the time, I thought that my main goal was to figure out how to get moving and start working on ways to make our venue the “best” venue in Topeka.
I went through the 6 week program and completed the workbook exercises, took part in the group calls (most of them) and really put my effort into the program.
At the same time I was still struggling with a lack of motivation and not really making much progress.
Then, one Saturday morning Tara was sweet and did a make-up call with a few of us. The way it worked out, it was just her and I chatting (face-to-face) for almost an hour before Sara (who no longer blogs) was able to sit and join in.
During that time Tara helped me admit something that I probably already knew – running the venue is not my dream.
As an added bonus and (because Tara rocks!!!), she gave us each a 30 minute one-on-one session.
So, on a Tuesday night almost 2 weeks ago, Tara and I had our one-on-one session. And, it was a huge eye opener for me!!!
While we were talking I realized that I don’t enjoy a lot of the tasks I have on my list day after day. Mostly because those tasks are things I don’t have any clue how to really accomplish.
I finally was able to say (out loud!!) that I don’t really think I have to strive to be the best venue in Topeka – that is just my overly competitive nature talking.
EVERY TIME!!!
I just want to do the best that I can do as a venue owner. Which for me, is offering customer service that goes above and beyond what anyone would expect!
I love the interactions I have with all (most!) of our clients and want to do everything in my power to make their special day (birthday, wedding, anniversary, business meeting…..) the very best it can be.
I also love helping people when they call about an event – even if I’m already booked I will brainstorm other options with them.
I finally realized that by letting go of the “best” notion and just striving to give my ALL to each caller/client I have much less stress and enjoy my job more!
Letting go of so much stress has not only allowed me to enjoy what I do more but also to plan and dream! And, I have some big plans and dreams -hopefully they will start to take place soon!!!
Have you ever worked with a coach? Do you have big plans/dreams?
We all have quirks (right??) or things that might be a little odd. Sometimes we don’t really notice ours (until someone else points them out) but it is easy to see them in other people!!!
So, I started thinking about some of the things I do that are a little different:
* I will refold all my towels if the folds don’t match but I can live with dust all day long!!!
* I always make my bed – even at hotels!!!
* No matter how time crunched I am, I can’t stand to ever leave dirty dishes in the sink!
* No matter how tired I am when I go to bed I rarely sleep all night.
* Sharing food and drinks bugs me!!! (even with Chris and the boys)
* I like all the cans in the pantry to fact the front and be lined up!!!
Similar to this
* I like my closet organized by category and color!
Not my closet but this one makes me happy!
* I don’t like to talk first thing in the morning. Chris pretty much never talks to me until I talk to him first even though he is a morning person!!!
* I’m usually cold during the day but HOT all night long!!!
Nothing too crazy – I’m pretty middle of the road I guess!!!
I think that many of us have some things in our past we regret.
Which type of regret do you think is hardest to live with – the mistakes or the missed opportunities?
