Why do People Take Advantage of a Kind Act?

Screen Shot 2014-10-19 at 8.12.44 PMIn general, I feel like I’m a nice person.  For my friends I will go out of my way to help in whatever way possible and for people in general I try to always do whatever I can to help them.

BUT…..I hate when I try to do something nice and end up being taken advantage of and treated rudely in the process.

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Saturday was one of those times when I tried to do something nice for someone and ended up having many hours of my day wasted and being treated very rudely.

After waiting for a couple of hours to help someone and do them a favor my blood started to boil.  After waiting more than a couple of hours and then listening to the people I waited for be hateful and act like I should be willing to donate my entire day to them I was livid.

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We had a new tenant moving in to her apartment and offered to let them use the venue stairs and the connecting hallway because it is much easier for moving furniture in than the apartment stairs.  In order to do this, I had to be there since it is a locked door that only Chris and I have the key for.

I had told the girl and her family that I would be there Saturday morning cleaning so that would be perfect.  Well, she wanted to move in Saturday evening.  Once she informed me of her plans (on Thursday) I told her we had personal plans and that wouldn’t work but that we would be there Saturday morning cleaning (early so we could spend some of the day with our boys).

She showed up at 1:45!  And, between her and her parents, I was appalled at the rudeness.  They basically told me that since I didn’t have an event they should be able to move in any time during the day.

Yes if you use the tight cramped apartment stairs you can do it on your time but when I’m doing you a favor by opening the venue for free it should be on my time.  Screen Shot 2014-10-19 at 8.12.07 PM

I was shaking with anger the entire time that they hauled stuff up the stairs (which had to be re-cleaned before I could leave since we had a wedding on Sunday).

Lesson learned.  But I’m still a bit torqued about the entire situation.

Have you ever tried to do something nice for someone and had it backfire so that you ended up being taken advantage of?

Happy Monday!!

Kim

Almost Skipped a Day (10/12 – 10/18)

This week was one of those weeks that pretty much flew by.  Every day I would think, “Oh, tomorrow will be an easier day.”  Not the case but it was still a good week!!!

Sunday 10/12 - 45 squat to lunge (same leg moving) – stay low on stationary leg.

Even though I only did 3 on each side in the demo, I really did 45 on each side.  My hip/quad was burning by the time I finished!!!

Monday 10/13 - 45 burpees with a hop onto a step. (Actually I did 50 because  Brooke’s workout for the day called for 50 burpees as the “extra” move.

There was nothing easy about these!!!

Boomer’s Burn was a strength workout all about high reps – awesome!!!

It was also a running day – 8 miles in 59:51 + 1.5 easy miles.

Tuesday 10/14 - 45 split squats with the back foot on a step.

ready
ready
down
down

And, of course, I had to switch legs and do another set of 45.

ready to go
ready to go
down
down

I held 15 pound dumbbells the entire time.  This move was not easy!

I did one of the Piyo workouts that I like – Buns.

And, Boomer’s Burn was an interval workout.  It was a good one – hard!!!

I did 5.5 miles during the intervals + 2.1 easy miles.

Wednesday 10/15 - 45 sit-ups with feet on step.

easy part
easy part
up and reach
up and reach

Boomer’s Burn was another great strength workout!!!

I ended up just walking with a 10% incline instead of running because my right quad has been bugging me.  I walked just over an hour.

Thursday 10/16 - 45 second side plank with top leg lifted.

HOLD
HOLD

This was not easy!!!  Then I had to switch sides and do it again –

don't drop the hip!
don’t drop the hip!

I pulled out one of my favorite workouts – Turbo Jam – Fat Blaster!

Boomer’s Burn was another interval day.  It started out OK but during the final interval my right quad (that has been bugging me) sort of gave out – I limped through one hard rep and decided that it was time to stop.

Friday 10/17 - 45  partner push-ups (with Hunter).

ready
ready
in
in

This was a fun move!!

And, this day sort of got away from me!!  I didn’t get up at 5:00am since the boys were out of school.  Because of that I  ended up not being able to workout (probably good to rest my quad).  After a full day and a neighbor’s party, I finally did this move about 9:45pm!!!

Saturday 10/18 - 45 tricep presses with feet on stool.

down
down
press up
press up

Hunter let me take pictures of him demonstrating the move last night even though I didn’t do it until this morning!!!

I had more rest days this week than I like but sometimes that is just how it has to be.

Happy Saturday!!

Kim

I Could Never be a Hoarder

I’m one of those people who likes to get rid of stuff.  I think everything should have a “home” and be put away when not in use.  I’m trying to teach the boys the importance of this so that they don’t turn into hoarders one day.

I mentioned the other day that our tenant on the 3rd floor will be moving out the first of November.  I’ve only been in his apartment once and it was before we bought the venue.  I’ve had to go up to the door a couple of times but I NEVER go in.

He is a HOARDER and being in his apartment makes my skin crawl.

Well, we have someone who is really interested in moving into his apartment when he is out and even though I warned her (double & triple warned her) she wanted to see the space.

So we did.

a cute room that is completely filled with stuff
a cute room that is completely filled with stuff
"bedroom" but really this should be a dining area
“bedroom” but really this should be a dining area
I think his bed is under this pile
I think his bed is under this pile
not even sure
not even sure
I can't believe how much stuff was everywhere!
I can’t believe how much stuff was everywhere!
junk, junk and more junk
junk, junk and more junk
kitchen area
kitchen area
this might be the worst one
this might be the worst one

The sad thing is that this apartment has so much potential!!!  I can’t wait till it is empty and we get it all cleaned up.

I think that the girl I showed the place to really liked it (minus all the JUNK!!!).  It has incredible windows, window seats,  uniques ceilings and room shapes – a lot of character.

Do you know a hoarder?
Do the pictures above make you cringe?  

Happy Friday!!

Kim

It’s the Little Things

I think it is easy to focus on big events – trips, holidays, school events, races…..

However, I truly believe that it is all the little things that really make our lives special.Screen Shot 2014-10-14 at 9.31.51 PM

It’s getting in your car on a cold morning and realizing that your husband got gas for you the night before so you wouldn’t have to freeze while doing it yourself!

It’s spending your evening at an 8th grade orchestra concert and realizing how much all of the kids have improved since 5th grade!

It’s spending a Monday off running mundane errands like Walmart and the grocery store but having company while you do it!!!

It’s spending a chunk of the weekend being a bum and watching an entire season of Modern Family!!

It’s making dinner at 2:00 in the afternoon so that it can be thrown in the oven while you drive to a meeting and the family can still enjoy dinner together.

It’s running 10 miles faster than you ever have before and feeling good doing it- even if it’s a normal day and you are by yourself on a treadmill.

It’s going to bed at the end of the day knowing that tomorrow is another day you get to enjoy with your family!!!

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So, even though I would love to be dreaming about a trip to Hawaii (or anyplace with a beach!!) I will be happy with pictures from previous trips and enjoy the little things currently making up my life!!!

Happy Wednesday!

Kim

Unconditional Love

Most days around 3:25 when the boys get home from school we sit and chat about their day.  I look forward to this time and hope that the boys always feel like they can share any and everything with me without fear of being judged or loved any less.Screen Shot 2014-10-12 at 7.58.42 PM

One day last week Jordan told me about his day and then he had something else to tell me.

For the last year or so Jordan has had a nice little group of friends – boys and girls.  I know most of these kids and lots of their parents and they are all very nice.

Well, Jordan wanted to tell me about one of the boys that just moved here last year (I haven’t met him yet).

Jordan kind of stumbled around and couldn’t find the words for exactly what he wanted to tell me.  He finally managed to say that this particular boy liked other boys.  I think I surprised him when I said “OK.”

Well, this boy (M) had kept it a secret for a long time but over the previous weekend his parents found out and they did not react well at all.  They told him he couldn’t hang out with the group of friends he had been with – I guess they thought that hanging around different people would “change” him.  They told him he could only hang out with his “friends” who didn’t support him.

I could tell that Jordan was bothered by the way M’s parents handled the situation and I told him that there was nothing he could do or tell me that would lessen the love I have for  him!!Screen Shot 2014-10-12 at 8.20.52 PM

I feel horrible for Jordan’s friend M and the fact that his parents are not able to accept him as he is.

Jordan and Hunter and I had a long discussion about the fact that I want them to know they can always tell me anything and I will still love them with every single part of my heart!!!

Screen Shot 2014-10-12 at 8.30.48 PMThis is  something that has been on my mind since the conversation I had with Jordan last week.  When I was growing up I never felt comfortable telling my mom much and I don’t want my boys to ever experience those feelings.

Do you have an open relationship with your parents and/or kids?

Happy Monday!!!

Kim

 

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